Now its clear to us that girls and boys deal with fusrtation and pain very differently.However, the sad part is that when in situations where this knowledge is applicable we dont ever seem to recognise it.
GIRLS NEED TO TALK
Now when a girl is upset or fustrated usually she will need to let her fustration out by talking. and talking and talking..I know!! hehe .Now this is fine coz usually the guy thinks..yay i feel so needed im gonna be able to help her out!! but heres the thing, all she wants is for u to listen.Thats right when a girl usually approaches a guy with pain he always offers her solutions and advice this is wher mrFix it cums out, where as the girl is not going to take in the advice as she is not ready for this wen she is emotional.As all she needs is to be listened to.Now at this point the guy feels unworthy and useless as she rejects his advice therefore slowly disconnects and begins to withdraw from her.Now another thing is that when us girls begin with the main cause of our pain we also let loose everything else wrong with our lives aswell.At this point the guys thinks oh no! she blames me for all her misery.No thats not it.Its just that girls like to sort everything out aloud and plu tits tension release
and plus its a natural habit aswell.
GUYS NEED THEIR SOLITUDE
Now in contrast when a guy when is upset or fustrated he prefers to go into his cave and just wants to be left alone.No girls get only one vibe from this..Oh no hes started to underappreciate me! Hes so sick of me he thats why hes starting to ignore me!! So she tries to talk to him or does unnecessary things to get his
attention inorder to try and determine whether her lil conclusion is true or not.Ofcourse this does not come out pretty.Coz he will just get annoyed.What girls need to do at a time like this say is encourage and engage him in his favourite activities because he wants to but he hesitates to he as feels he needs to find a solution for his pain all alone in his cave of solitude and will not cum out till he does.If that does not seem to do the trick,then be patient and let him deal with it on his own.
NB: This is just a typical overview.So pls dont think that all girls and guys will react this way.But it always helps being aware right:)
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(wow im such a role model for a stereotype)
BANDEY u the comments is for commenting UNO!!! hehee
heloooo shy..u r pilosopies are simply great
yeah.. true.. but as for me.. i prefer both.. to listen and to give advise as well... hehe .. and if ma boy is upset.. he actually shares it wit me...
nice post there..
keep posting!! :D
You must have read 'men are from mars, women are from venus'.
Forgiven:) so yea i was generalising mostly..hehe but yea wen i think up sum otha lil philosophy ill definately post:)..cheers
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